Overcoming the Fear of Making Mistakes

December 1, 2017

"It's easy to keep oneself in a holding pattern, claiming that one does not know what to do next.

But that is rarely true. When we are in a holding pattern,

it is because we know exactly what we should do next, but we are terrified to act on it."

Caroline Myss



When I started my journey to self-love many years ago, I had to learn to trust myself and God. I was so terrified to make mistakes, that I tried to reason myself in and out of situations. I was so afraid of getting life wrong. My mind was constantly flooding with doubts and re-runs of past mistakes. And it felt like my mistakes were hovering over my life like a dark cloud. Truth is, it was all in my head! I saw my doubts and mistakes as something to be afraid of. I felt as though I should know what to do, and simply move in that direction. But life's not that simple. 


Life is like a survival trip... You decide that you're going on the adventure of your life! So you get excited and book a trip to the Amazon! You're excited to meet new people, see new places, and be in awe of Nature! But as you get there, you realize that things aren't quite as glamorous...


As beautiful as the Amazon is, there are some things that you were not prepared for. Cause here you are, 2 days in, and your feet are swollen, you're hot ALL.THE.TIME, the food isn't quite what you expected, you can't understand what these 'new people' are saying without your guide translating everything, and what the hell is up with all these freaking bugs!! As the journey continues, you realize that even though you're grateful for being in the Amazone, it's not what you imagined it to be. And you're a little disappointed. Well, no... You're lots disappointed! And you really just want to go home and watch some Real Housewives and chill! But you can't, cause you know... you're in the Amazon somewhere!


And here is where sjit gets real! We start to question our decisions and self-doubt starts the mental tape of everything that could go wrong. But you know what... This is where you determine what the rest of your journey will look like. Are going to give in to the fears and crawl under a rock until "it's safe" or are you going to challenge yourself and try something different?


When you're at this crossroad, remember: 

  • It's not your job to know how things will turn out. What is self-loving today, may not be self loving tomorrow. what you want today, may not be what you want tomorrow. What brings you joy today, may not bring you joy tomorrow. This is why life changes when you keep going in the direction of self-love, desire and joy. But the answer is not to deny yourself love, deny yourself your wants and deny yourself joy. The answer is to let your life change. - Teal Scott 

  • There aren't any monsters under the bed! You can be a messenger of lies, fear, and destruction or a messenger of truth, love and creation. - Don Miguel Ruiz

  • Know what you want! When you get clear about your heart's desire, the Universe steps up in magnificent ways to support you. - Heather Ash Amara 

  • Trust yourself. When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. - Rumi 

  • The Universe gives you what resonates with you. My life seemed to be a series of events and accidents. Yet when I look back I see a pattern. - Benoit B. Mandelbrot



I would like to ask you to really pay attention to what's going on around you.

  • Look at your thoughts, your actions, the way you respond to others and the language you use. Is this in alignment with who you are? Does this feel authentic?

  • What are 3 things that happened today that were unexpected and positive?

  • Write your answers in your journal and do this every day for a week.  

At the end of the week:

  • Did you notice anything shift for you? If so, what was it? 


We're all on this journey called life, and sometimes it's necessary for us to view life from a different perspective. Know that mistakes are inevitable. But it's your perspective on it that will make the difference in your life! 


Have a beautiful day! 


Wishing you Love, Magic + Divine Happiness! 










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